Office Romance – Uhhhh!!!

Not being a romantic self, I am not very fond of romance and office romance in particular is a complete turn away! A healthy flirting is good, you may say! And may be it is, but I believe it to be otherwise.

Office is a place where we spend more time than home, so naturally you are attached to your colleagues. That is fine! But the moment someone is crossing the line, things start getting difficult, whether I am the subject myself or only the audience.

If I see someone crossing that line with me, I exhibit the true traits of my zodiac Cancer and withdraw in my shell. So, office romance, for me, ends before it starts.

Now, what happens when I see others involved in this kind of romance? Well, you guessed it. I don’t like it. I mean, I don’t mind their relationship, but I do mind the the public display of affection. Come on yaar, there are better places than office to display affection! It is still ok to have such couples around, as long as they are serious about the relationship. But unfortunately, these days, the casual relationships are so common! Like, you dig into each other all through the day and then return to your spouse in the night. Wow! Who are you cheating on? Your spouse? Your colleague? Yourself?

Unfortunately, I have always seen the wrong side of office romance. Like extra marital affairs, one sided love (read lust) and desperation to be with someone (bandwagon effect). None of these three things do any good to any one.

An affair between the boss and a team member is a killer. The team member, whether being deserving or not, grows well in the career, and the audience like me always climb one step at a time (at times, none!). I have seen many extra marital office affairs breaking marriages, disturbing personal peace and career. And one sided “so called” love is the most destroying. It can put pressure to no end. Its good that most of the companies are incorporating sexual harassment policies but the process of seeking solace with these policies is so exhausting and embarrassing that most of the times, the victim just silently bears the abuse. Hooking to someone just to kill time, touch here and there for a little pleasure and kissing in the elevators – all of this is seen to be so OKAY these days!

In my eyes, there is a lot to loose for a few moments of pleasure, if someone is engaging in office romance. More often than not it exhibits the evil side of your personality.

Have you ever seen a beautiful side of office romance? Do share some stories.

In response to Savio’s post Do you wanna partner

Year-end Tag

Savio had tagged me for this post in the last week of December but I took my own sweet time to do it! Thank you Savio for pushing me back to writing.

If God grants you an instant wish.. what would you ask for?

– I think I will be clueless! Will not know what to answer. There are so many things that I want, but not sure if I should bother God for it. He will give me what I deserve.

How well do you know yourself?

– Well, that’ a tricky one! the moment I think I know myself like back of my hand, I surprise myself by doing something or reacting in a particular way which will make me think “Aditi, is it you really??” I think no one can know oneself completely – it is a continuous journey, because we keep changing as per the time and situation, right? We keep learning, we keep progressing.

What do you think about a bloggers meet up?

– Why not! Would be great to meet fellow bloggers in person.

If you could transform into any animal what would it be?

– It has to be a Tiger. I hear they sleep for 18 hours!!! And sleeping is my favorite activity. Plus, people will be scared of me… hahahahahha.

Favorite book.

– So far, “The Laws of The Spirit World”. It is totally a game changer. Changed the way I look at life, taught me a lot.

Do you think true love exists?

– Of course!!! Not just in movies but in real life too!!!

Ego or anger? Which one damages the most?

– I would say both! Anger is like sever heart attack while Ego is like a Cancer. Both kill you sooner or later.

What do you want to become?

– A mother 🙂

Do you believe that there would be a third part in the movie Bahubali?

– YES!!! And I will watch it too if it is released.

Name one thing you do that always feels right.

– Letting go. It is important to let go. Hoarding on to things, matters, fights etc doesnt do any good.

Where do you draw the most inspiration from your blog?

– From what I see around, and from some genius tags that Savio does 😉

Favorite country?

– Has to be India, I havent known any other country yet

What is a relationship breaker for you?

– Ego

Would you ever take back someone who cheated?

– YES – if I really love that person, I would definitely give a second chance. But not a third! 😉

If you’re in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone cheer you up?

– I just need my husband. I just need to see him around, it is ok if he doesn’t cheer me up, but he should be around.

 Are you confidential?

– YES – I only share EVERYTHING with my husband, nobody else. And that is safe, ok? Most of the times he turns a deaf year to my chatter

What’s the one thing people always misunderstand about you?

– That I have too much attitude.

What did your past relationship teach you?

– Some things are meant to not happen and it is for your best.

What job would you be terrible at?

– Scientist or a Mathematician, may be? Actually anything that involves using too much brain.

If you could turn any activity into an Olympic sport, what would you have a good chance of winning a medal for?

– Non-stop chatter 🙂

What would be your first question after waking up from being cryogenically frozen for 100 years?

– Who am I?

What have you only recently formed an opinion about?

– Beggars! I just did a post on them some time back

What is the most annoying question people ask you?

– Nothing really, I dont get annoyed too easily

What is something a ton of people are obsessed with but you just don’t get the point of?

– Updates on Social Media

What one thing do you really want but can’t afford?

– World Tour

What did you think you would grow out of but haven’t?

– Controlling tears.

What do you wish your brain was better at doing?

– I think it is doing a good job.

If you had to change your name, what would you change it to?

– No way! I will never change my name

What would be the most annoying thing to someone who has you as a roommate?

– The mess that I create. I just love to throw my clothes on the bed after changing.

Have you ever saved someone’s life?

– How I wish, but no, I haven’t

Mr Savio, I have completed this tag! Promise is a promise!

I nominate:

Pooja, Vinayak, Sanober – Guys, this is interesting. I hope you will participate! Hopefully, this will be fun, if not, use it like a filler on the days you want to post something but cannot think of anything. Please feel free to modify the tag name, like New Year Tag or Just Another Blogger – basically anything that you like.

 

 

Pity or Unmoved – Not Sure What to Feel!

I have been in this dilemma for a very long time now. I just cant figure out how am I supposed to feel. A part of me says I should feel pity and do something for these guys. But seconds later another part of me says I need not, since it is nothing more than a gimmick.

Well, I am talking about the beggars that crowd near cars at traffic signals. I hate calling them beggars, but I am sorry, they don’t do anything more than begging. There are some who try to sell some petty articles like pens and stickers or balloons, but i will call it masked begging. Because they force you to buy those articles even when you don’t need them and they will never let you go with buying just one, they will force many more.

So, every signal our car halts at, we see many beggars approaching us and all other cars there. Initially, that is like 4 years ago, we would give money very willingly and these guys seemed contented with that. But of late, there seems to be an upgrade to their modus operandi. A penny never pleases them, they always want more. It is extremely heart breaking to see crippled people crowding the cars and asking for money. Ideally, it is supposed to evoke immense sympathy for them but things seem to be changing now. Each time the cars halts at the signal, we roll up the windows (mostly we travel with windows down, both of us like fresh air compared to AC) thus avoiding any contact with these beggars. Most other cars do the same. There will be few who will bother to give some money but that doesn’t move us. Really!

I mean, when I think, there will be children who look able to work but yet are seen begging. There are adults who fake disability and ask for alms. Why do these guys do nothing better than begging. Why cant they earn money in a different manner? I understand that these days, beggar trafficking (that’s what i like to call) is no less than human trafficking and perhaps all these able people who beg are trapped and forced to do so, but, really is there no way out? Not sure! On the other hand, some people could be really crippled, I mean you can see it really, like and amputated leg or a plucked eye. But unfortunately, these guys get a cold shoulder because of able beggars.

Beggars are mostly ignored these days, and why not? They don’t seem genuine to me. Each time I meet a beggar, I ask if he would like to eat something and 99% of them refuse and say they just need money. Even if you give them money, they will never seem to be satisfied with a tenner. So what is it like? Give them a hundred? I am like WOW – there is definitely something more to it than just what they try to show – like – they could be hungry really – but not for food, for money! Will a very needy person who goes to the extent of begging will refuse food? May be these guys are a part of a larger group who are given targets for collections? May be it is their job? May be they get some incentives if they over achieve their targets for the day? May be they are tormented if they do not bring in money? I don’t know!

What I know is I cant allow myself to keep giving money to everybody who knocks at my car’s window. It is unfortunate that they have to do it, but am I really responsible for it? What hurts me more is – I miss a chance to help somebody who really is in need. God forgive me for that!

This confuses me to no end! I can’t figure out whether I should feel pity or unmoved!

How do you guys handle such people?

The Forgoten Past

Raghav was sitting across Ayesha with his heart filled with hope. It was 100th time or perhaps even more that he was attempting this conversation with her. After all, this was all he was trying to do since past 3 months.

These 3 months were the toughest of his life. He just could not bear to see the unfamiliarity in Ayesha’s eyes and he couldn’t bear her hesitation when he touched her. Even the platonic touch of a hand shake seemed so forced. There were days when they couldn’t keep their hands off each other but today everything had changed.

Actually, to be precised things changed 4 months ago when they met with an unlikely accident. Raghav and Ayesha were honeymooning in New Zealand. Both loved adventure and were very excited to try the adventure sport called “Heaven Chair”. They just loved the idea of being tied together to an open chair car and being thrown down and suspended from many 100s of feet. They had tried similar sports many times before and the fear never touched their minds. Thanks to all the successful adventures they had so far. Little did they know that the Heaven Chair was actually going to make their life hell.

The unexpected happened and the Heaven Chair hit the edge of the mountain repeatedly while surrendering to gravity and Raghav doesn’t remember what happened after that. The accident was so bad that it was a miracle that Raghav and Ayesha survived through this. Raghav was recovering from multiple fractures and an amputated leg while Ayesha slipped into coma for a month. The fall had damaged some nerve in the brain and when she revived from coma she had lost her memory completely.

It was 3 months that Ayesha had come out of coma and Raghav was making peace with an artificial leg. Raghav was not upset with his lost leg and numerous scars all over his body as much as he was with the fact that Ayesha refused to recognize him.

He was trying so hard to bring back her memory but nothing worked. He held her hand with the hope that perhaps she will find the touch familiar but instead she jerked her hand off each time. He showed her their wedding photographs thinking that perhaps she may recall at least something but instead she accused him of having photoshopped those pictures. He narrated to her how they had met 10 yrs ago and how did they fall in love thinking that the depth of love they shared until 3 months ago may do the trick but alas!

Today was no different. Raghav tried doing all these things all over again. Ayesha looked unmoved. In fact, she looked frustrated and waited with a straight face for Raghav to get done.

Minutes after Raghav ran out of his tricks, Ayesha pulled out some papers and handed them over to Raghav.

“Raghav, we can’t keep doing this. I trust you when you say we are married but none of your stories evoke any kind of feelings or memories in me. I feel trapped in an imaginary world. I feel intimidated by your so called love. Please, get these signed when you come to meet me next time. Let us set each other free”

Ayesha picked her bag and left. Raghav kept staring at the divorce notice that was just handed to him.

10 years of love and 7 days of marriage succumbed to 4 months of memory loss!

Inspired by daily prompt: Evoke

Thank You 2017!

Happy New Year to all of you! Those who remember me must be wondering where have I been for so many months, and those who have already forgotten me, well, no offence 🙂 The rule of “Out of Sight Out of Mind” does work!

I had been away for second half of 2017 and it was for good! Thankfully, it was not because of depression or anything, but because some really great developments that happened in my personal life. I am totally overwhelmed with these developments and I can’t thank God enough. While all this time when I was away and busy in unfolding these developments, I learnt 4 key things which I want to share with you all.

1. Everything has it’s time: Most of us could be waiting for something, like a career opportunity, marriage, that dream trip, love, children etc. And we could have worked so hard to achieve it, yet we may not get the desired results. It is OK! Dont be surprised, it is really OK, what matter is that we tried. And our earnest efforts do bear fruits some day! Everything has its own time to happen, it will not happen when you want it to but it will certainly happen at the right time.
2. Bow down: It is very important that we bow down in front of a supreme power. This supreme power could be anything and anybody that you look up to as superior than yourself. Be it God, parents, Guide or just any other power. It is very important to surrender in front of this power. It is only then that you see clear what lies ahead. In other words, it means that by bowing down or surrendering yourself you clean yourself from a part of ego or self esteem. Slowly you travel towards modesty and humbleness. Only polite talks do not make one modest, actions do!
3. Don’t Lose hope: Well, you must have heard this from many, read this in many books but it is very very true. It is very easy to give up and it is very difficult to hang on, but friends, perhaps what God tests before giving us what we want is our will-power to achieve that thing. Just keep going, be focused and keep faith that you will get what you deserve!
4. Stay away from negativity: Little do we realize that we are surrounded by a great amount of negativity. That complaining woman who cribs about everything in her life, that frustrated man who keeps saying that good happens only to others, that upset person who says efforts are never paid for – all of them are spreading negativity. Stay away from these. Stay away from people who are rigidly negative. Plant a hope in your heart and nurture it. If you stay with negativity, this hope dies out very soon. Negative influence makes you do negative actions. Thus, you may end up doing bad for yourself, and even worse, you may never realize that you are paving your path to the grave.

You all may be wondering what happened to me all of a sudden? Why did I turn so spiritual? Well, time teaches you a lot! And these 6 months taught me things which life couldn’t teach me in last 33 years.

I know I may not have made complete sense. But at the same time I know, there will be some of you who will relate to at least one learning, sooner or later!

Wishing you a good, positive and healthy life!!